Quote:
Originally Posted by chihirochild
dear pdoc,
please please *please* behave yourself while t is out of town for the next three weeks. i really need you to be calm and regulating and non-offensive, and to avoid saying ridiculous s#!it that pisses me off... i know that these are not things you do reliably, but i'm asking you to man up and stop being a weirdo until t gets back.
(i'm gonna hafta figure out how to say that to him at tomorrow's session... i'm comfortable being straightforward with him re: how his actions make me feel, but i don't quite have the 'nads to say, "look, pdoc, can you just man up and act like a normal human for the next three weeks kthx" verbatim)
-c
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Update:
c: [is quiet]
pdoc: what?
c: i don't think we have time to get into this.
pdoc: go ahead.
c: i'd really rather not.
pdoc: well now you have to get into it--that's how this works, you have to say the things you don't want to say
c: i know, i know. *sigh* i'm worried about how i'm going to manage while [t] is away.
pdoc: well, you and i will be meeting every week [usually i see t once or twice per week and pdoc every two weeks so that i see one or the other of them twice per week]
c: yes. and... i don't always find our interactions to be especially regulating.
pdoc: *starts to grin*
c: well you can't deny that! you know how this tends to go!
pdoc: well, let's at least schedule our weekly meetings
[scheduling negotiations]
pdoc (ironically): see now, look at that--you've got me scheduled once a week. isn't that nice?
c: yup, you and the ED [this is a dig at him because unlike t he doesn't allow outside contact so my emergency plan is to go to the ED]
pdoc: well, this is at least better than the ED
c: true
pdoc: not that that's saying much
c: no, it isn't
at least he has a sense of humor about it...