The most important thing I learned from S (exT) this year is that he isn't who I thought he was and, also, that I can survive...even be ok...without him.

The most important thing I learned from J (interim T) and Group T is that I'm not alone and that I matter enough to protect. And, also, I learned what it's like to be protected...and that being protected can be very scary when what you need to be protected from is someone who is hurting you, but you would rather be hurt than lose them.

The most important thing I learned from C is that attachment doesn't have to mean obsession or pain. That there can be comfort and security there instead of agony. And, also, that the goal is not to "not need anyone" or not need him but rather to believe him so that he can actually meet my needs - so that I can take in his meeting my needs.
And, also... that it's going to be ok. That I can survive.