I am Hetro... no offence taken

I have never had a girlfriend, so there isn't anyone to talk dirty to.
However, I have pulled women on the dance floor, when I was younger and used to go out.

These one night encounters did not consist of penetrative sex. Just kissing, me going down on her, or fingering their vaginas to get them off.

I think at the time, my explanation for the lack of an erection, was that I was with a woman that I didn't find sexually attractive 'enough' to get me hard. -
- So, I just became obsessed with Cosmetic Surgery, thinking that this would solve the problem. I guess you could say I had body dysmorphia, and may still have it.

I am still saving up for even more surgery... but this time, my thoughts are more objective and realistic. I would never choose to have some of the surgical procedures I wanted when I was younger.

I have just watched a vid where a guy recommends a drug called Phenibut. It is supposed to melt away any depression or anxiety while you are on it. - This might do the trick.

Over 10 years ago, I got friendly with a girl but started to worry about my performance, so saw my GP. I asked about Viagra (or Cialis), but the GP didn't think this was a good idea, and recommended Psycho-sexual counselling instead. I think the GP also mentioned that PC exercises had proven to be at least as effective as Viagra etc. So... I've still never taken it.

At the moment, my game plan is "see a sex surrogate" which could be very expensive, and prepare for it first by using PC Exercises, Fleshlight training and - here's one I forgot about, L-Arganine, which is an amino acid that oxygenates the blood helping with erections (see the site: truelibido com).

So, I guess I still need to try Phenibut, L-Arganine and Viagra (or Cialis).

The trouble is, I can only know if I can 'do it' if I actually try getting hard in front of a woman - which comes back to Surrogate or Escort/Prostitute.

- I have no desire to form a relationship, and then get to the point where I ask her to bare with me as I'm having trouble getting hard. This would mean I'd probably end up asking her to allow me to enter her flacid (& presumably without a condom). Back to square 1!

With a Surrogate, failure to get hard wouldn't feel like failure, because in my mind I would just be training / having therapy. I would 'hopefully' keep doing it until it worked. A Prostitute may not have enough going on between her ears to be patient or understand the problem and what was required. With a Surrogate, it's her job as a therapist.

Thanks for replying - much appreciated