I don't think the amount of liquor he had on your date is a sign in and of itself. There was a time in my life when I had two cocktails, doubles, with dinner every night...I was much younger and a bit of a partier, but I also stopped at a certain point and knew not to drive after drinking...I always had a sober ride lined up. I never drank more than my limit, so maybe he has a high tolerance? I think the question with an alcoholic is, does he need the alcohol to function? Can he leave a drink behind? Or an unfinished beer behind? Can he have just one drink or does he always need to get drunk (or buzzed)?

The DUI is a red flag, even if it was 10 years ago. Also the fact that he took the beers with him, that he may have been drinking BEFORE your first date, in addition to during it, and that he spends so much time in bars. I wouldn't call someone an alcoholic just because they have a beer after work every day, but what you're describing does seem to go well beyond that.

Run, don't walk, away from him. With your disorders, you don't also need to be dealing with someone with alcoholism. I'm not saying that he doesn't deserve love and compassion, but he is in no shape to be engaging in a healthy relationship right now.

You can't fix him. Alcoholics and addicts have to hit bottom before they can choose on their own to make change. And the pain of staying the same has to be greater than the pain of changing for them to make that change.

I think, if you were to continue with this, you would find that he's emotionally unavailable, and you'd end up being very hurt, because you would emotionally invest in him and get nothing in return.

I repeat, run, don't walk, away.

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