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Dec 29, 2017, 04:19 AM
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Here's my take...the female friend has some sort of PD, and because your ex had a PD mother, he is somehow beholden under her spell. Obviously her husband is unavailable, so she is making your ex to take her husband's place. And your ex, because of his dysfunctional family background, is swept up in that role. He can't disconnect from her, because it would be like disconnecting from his mother. She guilts him, and he feels responsible for her, and he doesn't realize that he's not responsible for her.
When you came on the scene, she ramped up her efforts because you were a threat.
No, you weren't over-reacting. But I doubt he will change. Maybe have to cut your losses.
Sorry.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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