hi bp, you sound like you have a really good handle on things.

If this has been a long-term problem of his, it may be ongoing for some time before he truly seeks help. Many alcoholics don't want to quit and don't want to seek help to quit. He may be happy as things are right now. I guess what I am saying is because he has not admitted the problem to you or shown that he wants help, I wouldn't expect this to happen tomorrow or in the immediate future. It could be some time before he takes that step. Just saying. However, it is really nice and caring of you to be friends and support him if and when he does seek help. And I am glad you are seeing that this would be problematic for you romantically. Alcoholism is a very problematic disease and a very serious issue to contend with. (((((Hugs))))))))