I've been with my boyfriend about one year, and recently something from his past has really weighed on me. We are both 28.

About eight years ago, the girl he was dating at the time got pregnant and they got married. Unfortunately, the baby got sick and passed away when she was just a few months old. Ultimately, him and his wife ended up getting divorced a year or so later.(he admitted that they hadn't really been a good match and that they only really got married because she got pregnant). This all happened when he was living in another state while he was in the army. Him and I only met last year.

So last week I started thinking about that and realized that if his daughter hadn't passed away, we wouldn't be together and would have never met. He would have stayed in that state to raise his daughter.

This has brought me such guilt because I feel like the best relationship I've ever been in only exists because a baby died. Also, I can't help thinking that after my boyfriend went through such grief that I may only be a "consolation prize" even though I know it's very selfish to think this way.

I have spent time crying over this nearly every day for the past week, I feel numb and I don't know how to deal with this or how to come to terms.