Thread: Obsessed!!
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Old Dec 29, 2017, 04:13 PM
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Originally Posted by prefabsprout View Post
It's a process, it will happen (the closure).

I married young so not many ex's, but I was kind of obsessed with a guy who was in no way good for or to me before I met my husband. I was in a self destructive pattern at that time. At the time I thought my life would never be okay because he rejected me. I remember seeing him across a bar with his friends (me with mine) the whole time I was thinking was he looking at me, did he regret treating me badly, I wasn't really fully present with the people I was with because my thoughts were about him - I wanted him to feel bad that night, just as I had. I thought about that when I read about your need for him to see your post. It might or might not be similar to what you were feeling.

Years later I saw him in a supermarket, I was with my husband, our little boy was sitting up in the trolley. He looked from me to the baby to my husband then back again, and his jaw just about hit the floor, he didn't even say hello or acknowledge me other than gawping. All I felt in that moment was amused by the silly expression on his face, this was years later (5) I no longer had any emotional feeling for him.

You will eventually not care either way what he thinks, your feelings will naturally be concerned with other people and he will cease to have any relevance to your life other than a memory not to let anyone use you again.
Sprout, thank you for your personal story & encouragement -- it helps!

I know that in time he will fall by the wayside, and when I'm in love with someone else, I will not think back on this nightmare. It will all be far behind me. Unfortunately, time is what it takes.... time, time, and more time behind me and greater distance. Two months is not that long..... I am hoping in one more month I will feel SO much better. I already do feel relieved now that I've posted about my current bf. I feel like it's the final nail in the coffin letting him know I've moved on from him.