My dear.... I'm sorry to say it, but this man is showing signs of abuse. Controlling behavior as such is abusive behavior, and overly jealous is a trait of abusive men. He also berates you, calls you terrible things and names, and blames you for his own issues. This is also emotionally and psychologically abusive behavior.

DO NOT move with this man, is my advice. The abusive nature of his ways will only worsen over time, especially once he thinks he has more of you, as all abusers do. Abuse statistically escalates and worsens over time, and he's already showing signs and traits of an abuser.

I would get out of this relationship and I would certainly not expose my children to him. The good aspects are not worth all the bad ones. The bad far outweighs the good. You already know yourself that this is not healthy for you.

And if you stay OR move in with him, your own mental health will start to suffer more. Please do yourself a huge favor and start thinking about exiting from this now. I have been through several abusive relationships myself and I kick myself every single time I've stayed too long.