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Originally Posted by seesaw
Well, is the unhappiness caused by the relationship or something else? And if there was something that was fixable that would help you be happy?
I think it really depends on the nature of the unhappiness and what is causing it.
Seesaw
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We both have PTSD,mine is from childhood abuse,his is from a trauma not too many years ago.I have spent quite a few years in therapy learning to manage mine.His is untreated and unmanaged and he doesn't think he needs professional help.
It just feels like a toxic situation.I feel triggered by him often,which in turn triggers him.It seems like one of us is always dealing with one symptom or another.It's difficult to deal with.
I do believe things could turn around if he sought professional help.
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Originally Posted by TheSadGirl
Its not an easy decision by any means. If you have been unhappy for a while and can't see another solution, removing yourself from the situation is fair. You may want to try counselling first. Do everything you can and if it doesn't work, move on. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Guilt is not a good reason to spend your life unhappy.
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He has said he wants to try marriage counseling.I think he needs to work through his own issues first before we work on repairing the marriage.
It's such a tough and hard situation to be in.He stood by me all these years and my issues and now,I just feel so horrible that I'm finding it hard to stand by him.Especially when dealing with my own crap.I feel like a horrible person for this.Of course he never set out to develop PTSD,but it has changed everything.