Interesting twist tonight... I told her about my attachment to a former T, and it was so much easier to talk about it that way than about my feelings for her. Then I told her, well, kind of, that she has taken on the same role now. Ahe didn't talk about it much, didn't dwell on it but didn't dismiss it either.., She went straight to the point, that I myself will have to fix this inner child and that she can't no matter how much I want her to.

I poured my soul out to her tonight, and the transference helped me to open up because I love her, I trust her.
After some very painful days, I have managed to turn the pain of transference into a positive transference that was actually helpful.

In a way, accepting this pain, this wanting, this longing for her is turning into something incredibly positive, I guess.

Dont let the pain discourage you. Take it a step further, embrace it, and give it the chance to turn out well.

Tonight, loving her doesn't hurt as badly; it actually makes me smile.