I agree with seesaw.
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there had been ongoing drug use that was torturing our relationship
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He has been clean for one week. Given the past, I would want far more commitment to sober living than that.
Remember that your boyfriend is on perhaps his best behavior now, so as to persuade you to allow him to move back in. Remember what it was like when he was living with you. Remember that you had to
evict him after wanting him to leave for
one full year.
Remember these things and take your time.
Why does your son loathe your boyfriend?
Given your son's medical issues, it seems to me that the next logical step is to develop a plan for informing your son that your boyfriend is back in your life. Moving in can wait.
Let your boyfriend
earn moving in by being clean. Don't accept his promises to be clean, don't let him off the hook because "addiction is powerful", don't let him move in because you might feel shame about your own use.
Moving in can wait.