You are all right. As much as I think it wouldn't change how I view my son if I determined we were not biologically tied, I can't say at all how I would really feel if the results showed that.

I love my kids, and I don't want to do anything that would jeopardize my relationship with them or how they perceive who they are or who their family is. Both kids are already going through so much with the separation and impending divorce, why put another strain on them?

It hurts so much that my wife has introduced these questions into my life. I thought I knew who she was, who I was, who our family was, but I was wrong. She has unleashed a torrent of sorrow and misery for me because of her selfishness.