It has helped me to remember that "that part" was treated horribly and is still living in that horror. The things that happened should not have and she is trapped in the memory of that terror. She is struggling to survive, even though what she may do doesn't make sense or seem at all ok to other parts of me. And, she is trying to protect the rest of the system from abuse-she will do whatever it takes.

I try to tell her that she is now safe, that my body is now adult and I have adult parts that do not allow any part of me to be treated that way. I try to ask her what would bring her comfort or what she wants or how I can help.