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Old Dec 30, 2017, 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted by cklasik View Post
I am sure it works in some cases. Not in this case though.

What I am referring to is out of my control: it just happens, then in roughly 50% I suffer consequences (ostracism, hostility), in 100% of cases I feel what was described in that article.

Then it happens again with another person some time later.
So, as with anything, this will take practice. The first step is that you are mindful that you do this.

I'll give you an example. I have an anger problem. I jump really fast to anger. I have been working for a long time to be mindful that when I start to feel anger, to slow myself down, and take time before projecting it onto people.

So you need to start by trying to be mindful when you are speaking. You will still make mistakes, but if you just remind yourself at different points of the day to be compassionate with your speech and think before you speak, it will become a habit eventually.

For the first month, you may fail entirely. You may just be able to remind yourself throughout the day, but still end up saying everything you are thinking. Slowly, if you keep checking in with yourself to be mindful, you will find that you are able to catch yourself before you speak.

It will get easier as you work on it.

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Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.

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