Hmm, good idea. I understand that he has problems and so do I. I wish the world were perfect then I would not have to deal with people with problems. However, most people don't want to deal with others with problems and this includes me. I have told some people about my mental illness because I thought they would accept me, they disappeared or have not been hospitable. I want to be accepted for me and want others to confide in also. I have told him about my illness and family, and he accepts me still. I am similar to him in that nobody wants to deal with me either. So, telling me to throw him out because he has problems is like telling others to not bother someone like me also. We have our issues. I wish I could have made friends with people who are emotionally and mentally balanced and have not many issues, but they could care less for people like me. So, I could end up being very lonely and all alone. Or, deal with others who have problems too and try to be understanding. When I was homeless, only my family cared for me and took me back- nobody else did. So, for all of your suggestions and concerns, I consider it but realize your world is not my world. I made a decision to meet him and have decided to continue my contact with him. I think he is a good person who has heart. But, most people are only interested in protecting themselves and could care less about people like me or him. I talk to him and understand he may know about resources about becoming sober. But, nobody is there for him as nobody is there for me. If everybody only cares for others who are healthy and happy, then this world is indeed a very dark place to live. I do like him very much as a person. I see him as a person, not an alcoholic. He drinks a lot at one time but while he was with me during the night after drinking and the next morning and into the afternoon, he was not drinking. He actually was drinking tea with breakfast and lunch. So, he is not a full-blown alcoholic. He has an alcohol problem which has to be addressed. So, he knows he has problems but may be does not care because he feels that nobody cares for him either. I like him as I said. We talked for two months and confided in each other. I accept him as he is as he has accepted me. I like everybody's comments and suggestions. But, nobody knows him as a person and only is reacting to what I write. I am playing devil's advocate but realize that he could have just dumped me also when I told him about my illness and family. Thus, what you are suggesting to me to do to him, he could have done to me too. Also, it seems the people who have written here were abused by people who used alcohol. He has not abused me in any way. He has not lied to me about anything. He tells me as it is in his rather poor English. He has been good to me when he came he brought me presents. Also, I bought him beer and food because he was going to stay with me for five days until his father hit his head on the floor after tripping. His father is semi-invalid and is being taken care at home by his wife who has her own problems. Also, he took me out to restaurants three times and spent much money on me. So, I don't think he is poor. I also don't think he is trying to use me for anything. I am paranoid at times because of my illness so I present only the negative. But, looking back at his time with me, the only thing that struck me was his drinking excessively. He was able to remain coherent at all times. I was the one who drank one glass of red wine with him and almost passed out. I do want him to do something with his drinking and he said he would. Why wouldn't he? He has so far done what he said would do. He trusts me as I trust him. He also was nice to me and cleaned my bathtub for me. What else can I ask for?