I'm inclined to agree with Amyjay, on more than one point. I never much had a say about who gets to meet who either. For me, it's either happening or it's not, I have no say in that one. It's actually been a major problem in my life over the last few years. I can't make plans I can't bail on last second or take classes or do movie nights with a friend or anything because I haven't been able to know who would be here on any given moment. The last thing anyone needs is me going to a movie and having a terrified little or violent teenager show up. No good comes of that for me.

But yeah, I think asking around inside sounds like a good idea as well. Then there's the thing to consider to that a lot of times, DID is a covert kind of coping/survival skill, you know? The whole idea of being outed to friends (even friends who know and friends you trust) could be scary just because it's being outed, you know? I know that alone would make me feel incredible vulnerable and exposed if some other me had some friends and was like hey, I want you guys to meet Avery. Not like I could suddenly show up, but you know if I could... I'd feel like people were staring at me and I'd be really uncomfortable with that. But that's me.

That said, it sounds like you have some good, supportive friends, and I think that's awesome. But yeah, maybe ask around inside and see where the hesitation is coming from. Maybe offer some reassurance that no one has to meet anyone if they are not ready. If you have some decent co con going, maybe just spend some time around your friends so that others inside can feel more comfortable and hopefully see that yeah, these are safe people. That's the best I got... take it slow, offer reassurance, and be clear that it is a choice and not a must do. Wishing you well in this.

-Avery