Hi Queenie,
Welcome.
Yeah, the realization of the difficulty is amazing isn't it? I have been humbled by it.
I have been with T for over a year now and I find my therapy a roller coaster ride. Just yesterday we had a discussion about abandonment which is one of my core issues. I have to discuss it over and over again.
Good luck. Stay the course. It sounds like you are doing great! (And I like Alex's idea for slowing down.)