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Originally Posted by disparaissant
Thanks Rose  , you understand me and know me well. My niece and her husband live 1000km. away, where my sister lives. Although, since dad is nearing his death she has hinted at plans of moving close to home. My neice is pregnant, and my sister said she doesn't want to have to raise another baby. That's when things went crazy, and I had a message on Facebook from them, they do not want my sister around their baby. Just giving you a bit of a picture of my sister, and I think you know anyways. I will keep my distance from them all, and yes that is all I can do. I did get all the crap from them, the family whipping girl as you said. I did have years of counseling, so I thank you for asking but no counseling can fix this. Thank you, I will be ok, I am thinking again of a part time job to keep me busier. I cleaned all day yesterday and I was so tired I slept well. |
Counseling cannot fix your family. What needs fixing is the way you relate to your family and the way you think about yourself. I was interested in whether or not you have been able to see a link between the violence in your family and you ending up living with a violently abusive man.
It sounds like your niece knows how to shield herself from your sister. You may need to think similarly and not let her be around you. She is beyond toxic. That may mean you need to stay away from you're father as well.
I think working parttime would be healthy for you.