Mapman! So sorry to hear this. Wow, you're having more than your fair share of moral dilemmas.

I completely agree that a test would be devastating for your son. He would lose the family unit, his father and his mother (likely to hate her for the deceit).

It's enough to send a young person off the rails.

Give yourself strength by rewatching 'It's a Wonderful Life'.

That could be you one day, looking out from a happy family, and thinking Thank goodness I didn't do that.