Hello Jxvlvn: Since this is your first post here on PC... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. May I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!

P.S. You received some great references from CANDC! I guess what I would add is simply that, from my perspective, whether the relationship you're in is or is not toxic, you see how it has gone up to now. I used to know a guy who was fond of saying: "If you want to know which way the bullet's going, look down the barrel of the gun." If you re-read what you've written here, you'll see how things are likely to continue to be between the two of you as long as you are together.

Is it possible you bf will change? Sure... anything's possible. But change takes time. And it requires insight & determination on the part of the person who needs to do the changing. From what you wrote, it doesn't sound to me as though your bf has either of those things; at least not yet. You wrote that you love him with all your heart. So I guess the question becomes do you love him enough, & does he love you enough, that your love will insulate you from the ongoing relationship struggles the two of you are likely to encounter in the future. Only you know the answer to that question.