Barging into this thread, apologies if commentary is unwelcome. Peace, trust in yourself, stability, strength, confidence-- those just struck me as such superb outcomes to focus on, especially with respect to relationships. He seems really clear about doing the opposite of fostering a dependency but realizing that you need support to get there. It's like he's holding the image of a peaceful, self confident you in his head and working towards the goal of getting there.

I've read some about your therapy with MT and in this context, it may be that ending that therapy will move you towards this goal. Being in control of how and when this relationship ends will help you achieve this more peaceful state, I think. In my experience, the loss of a relationship also creates opportunities for new ones-- including with yourself and with your past. Grief, for me, has illuminated things and people I had not paid attention to before.