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Originally Posted by confused_77
Very interesting what you are both writing. I think for about a year I was like that too.. i would not dare to ask for an outside contact and only send maybe 4 short txts in a year if it wasn't abour rescheduling. I didn't want to be needy, didn't realise I could ever have any outside contact etc.
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I totally understand this. I've never discussed boundaries with my T. but from the beginning, I assumed that we have only our 50 min and nothing more. So I don't send emails to her, don't call - no contact outside at all.
What's more - I haven't asked any question about her life because I'm afraid that it's personal and she doesn't have to answer (and I'm afraid of hearing rejection).
Once, I talked about one book and I thought that I could borrow her this book, but then I realized that probably it's crossing boundaries and didn't even asked.
I'm really careful with this because I don't want to hear someday that "it's too much, we are not friends, and it goes beyond our therapeutic relationship" :-/
However, it's possible that she's just fine with this kind of things. I'm just afraid to ask.