Well my family of origin looked perfect from the outside. Inside I had a mother who was a narc and played favorites. Lets just say I wasn't hers. So to answer your question, when I am in a friendship where I feel the other person treats me less than, it triggers anger in me. Now as an adult, of course it's never about the other person. They are no more responsible for how I feel than I for them. The fact is though that it still triggers me. It's the hurt I'm avoiding. What I need to do is say what I feel at the time someone hurts me. Assertiveness. But when you've been programmed to never express anger it doesn't come naturally. So I either continue to put myself out there in hopes that one day I get it or decide it's just not worth the effort. I hope this answered your question