Leaving my H after being married 33 years was the only way I regained my sanity. He actually has gotten worse after I left him. Within the 10 years he has let the house go into foreclosure twice after not paying house payments for a year each time & saying he doesnt know how he didnt pay for a year. But it wasn't just forgotten because the miney wasnt there to pay it. Some people have a serious problem that will never change even when forced to deal with divorce or ling term separation. I thought my H would change when he realized I was leaving him. Instead he got worse & all I could think & can think is that it was such a good thing that I finally did leave. It was after I left & I got better from the depression I had suffered the last 13 years I lived with him, I realuzed thst the situation of living with him was the REAL cause of my depression.

I love life & even though alone & really NOT interested in ever finding a marriage relationship ever again I have never been more involved in so many wonferful activities & have friends for the first time in my life. I can truly say leaving was the best thing I ever did & wished I had left long before I did.

My H (soon to be ex) may end up homeless because of whatever is causing his problems but in all reality....it is his problem.

Your mother needs to talk with a good divorce lawyer because since she has the income, & roles are reversed, dividing assets will be very important to her in the process because he is like a stay at home househusband & compensation may be forced even if it is his own choice not to work. She needs a good lawyed who will make sure that her best interest is taken into consideration or she could end up losing alot financially.