Most of my family are experts at the "just kidding" cut downs.

And my mother is queen of trying to pass insults off as loving concern, or even being happy for me. For example, she'll be just a little TOO enthusiastic with the excited jumping up and down when I do something well. I'm talking about everyday life skills here, things most people my age do without a second thought, like get in a car and drive to where they need to go. The undercurrent is that she's surprised I could do it. Point that out, and of course she'll deny feeling that way. But you wouldn't see her jumping up and down because my brother does the same thing.