@Misssy2 Thank you for your response! I unfortunately do not have anywhere else to go, or much work experience to get a job that would support us without taking all my time away from ym
kids. We have one car that he takes to work so there's that too. I understand what you're saying about not taking on school with a baby, but the way I've timed it is that when my oldest kid starts school (i also have a five year old from previous relationship), a family member has offered to help out by putting the baby in daycare. I'm starting with a light load at first, and most of the program is online so I figure if I can stick it out, it will be worth it in the future.
I can tell the tension has already affected my oldest, and it breaks my heart. But that's more motivation for me to get an education so show what all can be achieved through adversity, and the importance of not settling into a situation that leave you dependent. I also have this big anxiety that my boyfriend will hard either himself or me if I leave right now, so that makes me cautious. Cautious to even address things with him at all anymore.
How did you manage to leave, and how did your kids take the split?