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Originally Posted by The Madcap
So when people are extremely depressed or sad it makes me really happy or uplifts my mood but if someone is super happy and cheerful, taking pictures with Boyfriends, Girlfriends, it angers me, I feel sad but very very angry and frenzied..I want to make them sad and miserable..I don’t know what’s wrong with me..I guess people’s misery makes me happy and uplifted and people’s happiness makes me angry and negative and I just see them as being fake and plastic and I just really hate them and want to make them miserable. Also I notice that if the attention isn’t in me I get extremely insecure and jealous. Like I become so negative and need that attention and need everything to be about me. I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it
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I don't know to what extent you get depressed when you see someone's happy stories, or the other way around, so I can't really say yours is not a problem at all. However, if you are just feeling bad for a short amount of time, say 90 seconds or less, then it might just be a normal reaction. I know I have these feelings when I see others' accomplishments in their professional and personal life. There is actually a German word for it, Schadenfreude: pleasure derived by someone from another person's misfortune. So people have been looking at this feeling for a long long time. We don't talk about it much in this culture, but other cultures do. Generally I like to say that comparison is a b****, it'll steal whatever joy you might have about something depends on the way you think about it. But it is also human nature to compare and size ourselves up based on other people's lives.