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Old Jan 19, 2008, 01:49 PM
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I think I'm uncertain about how you are defining control.

I do not think one has to teach children that, hurting another person, hurts that person. All children know that when they get hit, pinched, have toys grabbed, etc. that hurts and they do not like it. Another person's expression of pain, such as in a rape or use of force, is not "confusing" to the person causing the pain! Maybe they "need" to cause that pain, but they know it causes pain.

I think rape is always a control thing, as in "power." I must cause you pain, overpower you, show that I am stronger than you are, either to myself, to you, to my father in jail who used to beat me as a child, whomever. The only way I can feel "good" is to make you feel (control) you, now.
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