are these things from a caretaker abuse? one of my friends' caretakers' behavior is kind of concerning. these are a few examples of things i've heard he's done and i'd like to hear your opinion:

- hitting her (in the head with a brush, hitting on the arm, slapping in the face and hitting with a belt)
- sometimes he wakes her up by screaming and cursing for sleeping in
- when she was young and sitting on his lap he would casually put his hands up her shorts. no touching "there" but it still kind of set off a red flag
- getting upset when she didnt want to kiss him on the lips

sorry if i am overreacting but i just want to look out for her.