Hello Rebel: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral!
I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.
Well... with regard to your particular concerns... you're in luck!
My wife & I have been married for 38 years!
So I think I know a thing or two about l-o-n-g term relationships!
And what I would tell you is that, at least based on my own personal experience, all of the things you're worrying about are, in fact, more than likely to happen if you at some point get yourself into a long-term monogamous relationship.
You will end up sitting on the couch next to one another... (maybe not even next to one another.) You will run out of things to say. Your relationship will go sour after 10 years... maybe sooner... and likely again in 15, 20, or 25 years, etc. And yes there are likely to be periods where you will no longer feel attracted to her... (and she to you.) That's what long-term monogamous relationships are all about. What it all comes down to, at least in my experience, is commitment. You're either committed to one another... in for the long haul... or you're not. And, if you are, then you work through all of that stuff one day at a time. From my perspective at least, that's just the way it is.
Having written that... here are some links to articles from PsychCentral's archives on the subjects of stress & relationships:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...m-beating-you/
https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-cou...-relationship/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...relationships/
https://psychcentral.com/lib/9-ways-...ere-right-now/
I don't know, of course, if you're just here seeking advise with regard to this particular concern, or if you plan to hang in here with us. But if you plan to stick around, may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:
https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/
There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become.
Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!
