Unfortunately not weird at all. It's hard to put into words. Every system works differently. Literally no two are the same. Yes, my little ones had to come out & cry,& those that were born out of abuse, kick, scream, throw things. In my family, little ones are not allowed out without a protector near by. It's like he is standing quietly,attentively,observing in case danger intrudes.And afterwards the alter needs the soothing of their blanket, rocking, etc. It is very tiring. Uses up a lot of physical energy. If one needs to come out, got to let it out. If not, we develop all kinds of unhealthy coping mechanism to keep it in. We've screamed while vacuuming, cried in the shower, found a private place at a open space. Best of all in a therapist 'office. Once the little ones got all the necessary physicality out of their system, they were able to learn to cope by drawing, fingerpanting, sandbox etc. Now they tell me if they need time out. We can negotiate a time & place. Like after we get home & not while I'm driving! Can we suppress an alter. Yes, but why would we want to? Like a dangerous one? One you don't like? Honestly we use to. Then we developed unhealthy ways of suppressing them. It kind of feels like when you are sick & you just know who are going to vomit. You can't stop it, it's going to happen sooner or later. Hope this helps. Thanks for asking. Hadn't thought about it in a while.
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