Thanks for your reply. It’s so hard though. When I was kicked out temporarily, she told the kids I moved out because I didn’t love her anymore. I had the kids ringing me in floods of tears, begging me to come home.

Only last night we were having a civilised conversation about trying to see my brother and his family more (they aren’t the easiest people to see as they can be a little quiet and ‘odd’). Anyway all of a sudden she starts telling me themat I’M getting aggressive. When I genuinely wasn’t, so I consciously adjusted my body language and tone of voice, just to make sure. But she kept saying I was aggressive. She went to bed crying and this morning, she is blaming me cause she is tired as I kept her up in a state last night.

I can’t see any way out because she will tell the kids it’s all me, and I left her.

The way she is towards me I feel like she wants ME to leave her, so she can blame me for everything.