Hi there,

I feel your pain, and I am so sorry you are hurting like this. (((((Hugs))))))

A breakup over text though? Where is the respect and the dignity in that kind of breakup? A three year relationship deserves an in person conversation.

I would try to have the in person conversation somehow. These questions will haunt you until you do, I do believe. If you really want him without living together and are willing to accept that for the remainder of the relationship (however long that is), then I would think it would be worthwhile to have another conversation about this.

However, he may stick to his guns about it, in which case, it is something else and he's using that as an excuse.

Were there any other signs of him wanting to be apart? Any issues in the relationship?

Can you call him instead and tell him that you have questions and need answers and you plan on stopping by and when is a good time to do so? If he ignores you, you have your answer.

It will hurt, yes, and letting go of a true love is very hard. Over two months ago, I had to break up with my fiance of one year and it was very hard and very painful. But it gets better and easier over time, though it does take time, as said above.

Keep us posted. In the meantime, try to take good care of yourself. (((((((More hugs))))))))