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Originally Posted by Wonderfalls
It may be legitimate of you to say, but it isn't very wise. Of course if the therapist "can't" give you the time it's because there are priorities over you. Her mother's chemo appointment, another client's long-standing appointment, choir practice, her kid's ballet lessons. How arrogant would it be to feel she should stop her whole world for you? What should make you her top priority in life, no matter how good a therapist and no matter how much she takes care of you, her other life should end?
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
By the way, if your T says, "I can't do X," it is legitimate to reply, "You choose not to do X. It's a matter of priorities, isn't it? And I'm not your top priority."
Time to accept responsibility for your choices, T!
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I said something similar to this... but added... as it should be. It allowed me to acknowledge that a part of me wanted to be her top priority and that most of me knows that wouldn't be healthy if I was. I even went as far as to say something about that if I was her top priority then she wouldn't be able to help me because of how unhealthy that position would be. And that I need her to take care of herself, which means regardless of how I am feeling, making sure I am at the right level in her priorities.