Hallo people. I would like to read opinions, what other people would do in my situation.
I am dating for a loooong time someone, with whom we went throught many rough and good times, but after many years here is the thing...
We got in these relationship with the perspective to get married. But after more than 5 years this has not happened.
Some of the things I have heard about it is:
- I need to get a good job first.
- I can not move near you with a job of 500 dollars (he lives in another city).
- I am planning to leave my wordefull family to marry you (saying it as a big sacrifice, like I own him for that) and this is devastating for me.

Plus, through all these years occasionally I 've heard things from him like:
- Oh "this" friend of mine offered me a great job opportunity in "this" city and I am thinking of it...
- Oh there is "this" interesting college masters degree in "this" city and I am thinking of it.
- Oh, I might aply again for a job in my city, because I know that in yours they will not hire me. I have no chances.

Meanwhile, he has made big trips to visited me for which I know he did sacrifices of various types. But, all the above things took place also.
He is also very supporting to me, when I have problems, spends a lot of money for me (I know, this may not be a sign of love) trying to get my admiration and liking and coveres all of our vacation expenses.

Meanwhile, through these years I have heard:
- Who is this spanish person, for whom you are learning spanish?
- (While texting to him and forgot to change the language) why are you using this slavic typing system? To whom are you texting?
- I don't want you to attend this drawing class, because you may meet someone. (He did not command me not to, but he made me feel really bad with his negative mood).
- Would you like to stay at home and not going out for fun again until I move near you?

Meanwhile, he is the one who had an affair while being with me, which ended at the beginning, as I discovered it. His excuse was that I was not giving him too much attention and was flattered by that woman.

I came many times to the point that I said "I can not bear this anymore. This has to stop". It is insane. I expressed it to him, I said why, and his response was something like "Immoral woman, you want to leave me for someone else, after all the sacrifices I have done for you" (not with these words, but the meaning was that).

I have developed the thought that he is not that much into it, but he is confusing me, as he generally shows interest in communicating with me from distance and meeting me occasionally.
What do you think?