Hello measurer: I believe you posted this, & received some replies, in another forum. So I'll reply here. And, since this is still just your second post... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I myself can't really be of much help with regard to your concerns. I presume the members who replied to your post on the other forum no doubt were. However, here are links to some articles from PsychCentral's archives that may be of some interest:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/recover...-and-breakups/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...tional-affair/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...ver-a-breakup/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...om-heartbreak/

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!