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Old Jan 19, 2008, 07:49 PM
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I'm not sure who you are listening to complaints from; your sister who stole from your grandmother or your grandmother who was stolen from and what the complaints are?

If it is your grandmother, I'd just remember she came from a different generation and has already spent her life battling all of this for longer than we have. I'd just agree with her and commiserate with her about how difficult things are. If you're managing her money/estate then she is not enough anchored in the here and now to take care of herself so some of her comments aren't "real" either, except to her. She truly doesn't understand and I don't mind people who don't understand.

We had an expression in our family, "It's only money!" when something was unexpected or too expensive but had to be bought anyway. Laughing a little took some of the sting out of the difficulties.
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