I'll be very candid with you. Before I was diagnosed I had a series of manic episodes accompanied by a series of affairs. When she found out, I walked out convinced I was incapable of having a good relationship with a woman. But my wife had a friend who is a psychologist who told her that I was probably bipolar and that I needed help. I came out of my mania and she took me in on the condition that I seek help among many other conditions (like never texting a woman I don't need to be texting, etc).

Honestly, I don't know how she was able to reconcile with me. But in our wedding vows, we vowed that we would remain together in sickness and in health and she took that very seriously despite the fact that I had totally obliterated my vows.

But this is tricky. I still cheated. She was still hurt. Our marriage was still hurt. No matter whether I was sick or not. There's no scapegoat that can heal this. And so I had to take responsibility for that by following the conditions pertaining to my treatment and to women so that I never stray again. We've been married for 23 years now.

I don't know what you did. I don't need to know. What matters is that your spouse understand that you would never do those things as long as you are well. And for you to understand that she has a right to her feelings and that it is now your responsibility to do everything in you power to be a good spouse. And number 1 of that is to follow your treatment plan to a T.

I hope you find a way to convince her of this. I hate to see a marriage break up because of illness.