Hello lady: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry I cannot be of any help with regard to your situation. I was a bit unclear with regard to this man's current marital status. You mentioned him talking about planning to leave his wonderful family to marry you. I wasn't sure if that meant he's currently married to someone else or if he's talking about parents, brothers, sisters, etc. My personal "gut-level" reaction to what you wrote, though, is that this man is stringing you along for his own benefit.

There is such a thing as emotional unavailability. I don't know if this bears any relationship to the man you're dating. But here are links to 3 articles from PsychCentral's archives on the subject just in case. Perhaps they may be of some interest:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-...navailability/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...y-unavailable/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...y-unavailable/

I don't know, of course, if you're here simply seeking advice with regard to this particular concern or if you plan to hang in here with us. However, should you be planning to continue on (we hope you do)... may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!