I think one thing is clear: at the very least, you do have an anxiety disorder. I think any doctor would come to that conclusion. That's not to say that you don't also have some issue affecting you physically. Anxiety can manifest as physical aches and pains. And physical ailments can aggravate anxiety. The physical and the mental feed off of each other. (For the past few years, I occasionally get severe, serious chest pain. It is pure anxiety, but the physical pain of it is totally real. I've seen both a cardiologist and a psychiatrist. I'm glad my heart's okay, but there is nothing fictitious about my chest pain.) Doctors will not think you're crazy. Anxiety is a very real condition. It stresses both the mind and body and can lead to other things, physically and mentally.

Your symptoms are real, and your body is telling you that something is wrong. If that something happens to be psychological, that is just as real and important as arthritis or a cardiac arrhythmia. No responsible doctor is going to dismiss it. Be open to the possibility that it may be something different from what it feels like, as in the case of my chest pain. A physician who does not respond with concern is unworthy to be your doctor.

So step away from belittling your own reality. You need help troubleshooting where the stress - physical or mental - is coming from. If a doctor refers you to a therapist, that is not to deny the validity of your complaints. It is to identify possible stressors, which we often can't see because we are too enmeshed in them. The professional to start with is your primary care provider, whether that is an MD, a PA or a NP. The PCP can order tests and make referrals. Just getting this problem out in the open may somewhat alleviate it.

You've approached two doctors already. Sometimes a physician will deliberately under-react to a patient's complaint for fear of infusing it with more energy . . . to see if it may fade away on its own. It would be appropriate, on your next visit to a PCP, to say that you've sought help before and you need to be taken seriously. This is where your self-doubt will not serve you well. Don't minimize the reality of your problem. If you don't, others will be less likely to.