Interesting thing your T said about disclosing less to you!

I feel my T is really opaque, and yet she's said the opposite to me: That she discloses more to me and is more "open" because she thinks I need it. However, I still perceive her as opaque. And I'm definitely someone curious about my therapist's life. For instance, I found both her public and private instagrams through googling and told her when I did. She, too, wanted to discuss why I told her. So we talked about how I'm curious and how guilt made me want to confess to her.

I'm glad your T wasn't shaming or punitive when you told her you found her BF's full name despite her not wanting you to know.

About wanting your Adult Self to run the show and not completely the boundary pushing Child Part, my T calls it "emotion mind" when one does things out of emotion. We do also take about child and adult parts. I swing between that mindset and a much more rational mindset. T talks about achieving Wise Mind. It's a DBT thing:

Emotion mind |---- Wise Mind ----| Rational mind

She talks about developing mindfulness so that I can pause before I react out of emotion mind / child part.

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