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Originally Posted by Skeezyks
Hello lady: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral!  I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. 
I'm sorry I cannot be of any help with regard to your situation.  I was a bit unclear with regard to this man's current marital status. You mentioned him talking about planning to leave his wonderful family to marry you. I wasn't sure if that meant he's currently married to someone else or if he's talking about parents, brothers, sisters, etc. My personal "gut-level" reaction to what you wrote, though, is that this man is stringing you along for his own benefit. 
There is such a thing as emotional unavailability. I don't know if this bears any relationship to the man you're dating. But here are links to 3 articles from PsychCentral's archives on the subject just in case. Perhaps they may be of some interest: |
Thank you for the links. In fact some things are true (speaking for him), thnigs mentioned on the article.
He is indeed absorbed, but not by himself, but by his family, who is trying to have a "servant boy" within the family, they ask him to do things for them that they can do on their own , like they are kids or something, and they are n o t willing to loose this... (Even when we two are in vacation, they ask him to do things through the internet and he does like a "good" boy, to avoid family grouchiness after he goes home). He recognizes it and he is not happy about it, but in order to avoid r e a l l y ugly fights, he is obeying with the hope to get the super job in my city to leave... When I argued with him about that and suggested that he should not tolerate such an attidute, he accused me for pushing him to fight with his family...
The question is: is there anything I can do about the whole situation? I have achieved nothing so far, by talking, arguing and even fighting with him sooo many times.