Wow, krazibean, what a lot of feelings in such a short time.

First, congrats on your great session and therapy high!

I love how your T treated the stink bug with respect and put him gently outside to fly away. Wouldn't it have been awful if she squashed him?

Very cool about your collage!

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she feels comfortable putting her feet up and eating infront of me but not all of her clients

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Totally cool! My T is like that too. He eats in front of me all the time, and it makes me feel all warm and special, because I think he would not be comfortable enough to do that with all his clients. In fact, he didn't eat with me present when we were first getting started as we didn't know each other well enough then. (I sometimes secretly think he likes to schedule me for the dinnertime hour so he can eat. )

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she described our boundaries

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">You don't say what your boundaries are, but are you clear on what they are now? I think when the client is clear on what the boundaries are, it can help so much, so they are not always wondering, "should I email her, should I phone, should I do nothing, is it OK if my email is over 2 paragraphs long?, etc.) This sounds like such a reassuring discussion with your T.

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i scooped ice cream for my T <3 <3 i put an extra scoop in there

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Alert, alert. Boundary violation! I love how you gave her the "gift" of the extra scoop and she had to accept it. (You guys were outside of the therapy setting so you can do this stuff if you want!)

It is a really interesting question about whether the T should acknowledge she knows you if you run into her outside of session. What has happened for other people? I have never seen my T outside of therapy (except for times we arranged). I feel like he would say hi to me. I would introduce him to who I was with for sure. I wonder if he would introduce me to who he was with?

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She didn't even say bye.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think she was just treating you like any other ice cream scooper person. Nothing personal.

I think you are doing great, krazibean. Seeing a T outside of therapy can throw anyone off a bit. Hold fast to your memories and feelings from the session.