Quote:
Originally Posted by AnnaFa
Hi everyone,
I am a 27 years old female who had relationship and career issues for a long time.
I have been seeing a new therapist for a month. when we started he claimed that he treats people using hypnotherapy, which I am completely unfamiliar with. through our sessions he started hugging me as a step in transferring energy into my chakras. Since the very first session he told me that your second chakra is more open to energy ( which is located at the root of sexual organs, along the spine in the subtle body.)
As our sessions continued he touched me more and more and in our last session he kissed me more than once.
He insists that whatever happens during the sessions are for your treatment and you are the one controlling everything (meaning that you are the one who wants to kiss me!!!). So, do whatever you want.
I am concerned and frightened here. I don't know whether this is really a kind of treatment or he is abusing me?!
he has helped me through my relationship and career issues and I have made great progress. But with the situation I explained should I talk to him about it? should i quit?
I am really confused here...
|
If you are concerned and frightened, which you say that you are, that is a big red flag. My gut instinct is to suggest that you don't go back to see him alone, but I understand what it is like to have a working relationship with someone who has helped you and in whom you feel you have some trust and/or loyalty.
I don't know you or your therapist or the type of work you are doing BUT I can tell you that if you are feeling uncomfortable you need to have the behavior from your therapist stop. It must not continue. How you choose to have it stop is up to you. You could stop seeing him, you could talk to him (though it sounds like perhaps you have a bit and he told you it was coming from you??), you could bring a friend/family member to your next session when you talk with him about this so that there is a neutral party present when the discussion happens if you think he may try to be manipulative or may become angry.
You sound concerned about what is happening and you wouldn't be concerned about it if YOU were ok with it. Right or wrong on the therapist's part (and personally, I think it is WRONG - but that is just my opinion) the fact that YOU feel concerned and frightened by the behavior is a signal to yourself that it needs to stop. Please try to find it within yourself to stand up for yourself with this therapist in the way you need to. I know this isn't easy, but you can do it. You have taken the first step here.
Doogie