I am glad she asked you that too, because I find it both fascinating and perplexing.

As the first thread established, many of us google whoever we feel like with no guilt and any others simply observe the boundaries indicated the T prefers.

Pretty much no one repetitively googles their T, and then confesses.

I have a healthy fear of my T- well , not fear but awareness that therapy has really stylized and intense rules that he takes way seriously.

It would be very masochistic to be like hey T I googled you and found out xyz bc I might get an" I am disappointed in you speech" or I might get terminated or he might say the right things about boundaries but trust me less as a person( rightfully).

I also might feel that for practical purposes, it is tough luck if they get googled, bc we all do by our clients . I wouldn't be at all surprised if my T googled me, or looked at my FB, but he definitely isnt telling if he did. I assume my clients and students google me, and I am mindful how I use social media etc. I dont feel that T's have any special right to online privacy, and they need to be like everyone else and be media savvy if they are going to use it.

I have no questions about why you google your T, just why you immediately confess. Her response was identical to my first impression of "GOTCHA", but now I dont think that is it. You do it more wistfully than in a HAHA sense.

A good friend of mind raises tiptop sight hounds, and she uses Googe Earth to check out prospective homes for her puppies. At first I was horrified bc it seemed like an invasion of their privacy, but now I am so used to her doing it, I dont even flinch. For SURE, she never tells the people, but she knows if they lied about having a fenced yard ( unless Google Earth is like 7 years behind, which seems possible).

What do you think about the ethics of her doing that to place puppies?