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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
I don’t mean to be an arse but you’d give up on a therapist (who I’ll admit I seriously crush out on, sight unseen — pure love and all that) who is unfortunately, currently (for reasons unknown) addled enough (maybe it’s the snow or the mere prospect of snow?) to try textbook-y therapist-y stuff like reframing and all that crap?
If I were you, I’d go back (as I have done with Blondie) and describe (as Blondie put it yesterday, scathingly) what I think of such therapist-y tactics. But, perhaps, not actually quit?
Don’t mind me though — last night, Blondie vehemently denied that she’d meant “pathetic” in relation to my response but had instead meant it for the moron’s (who’d pissed me off) behavior. And, that she could totally see why I was reacting the way I was reacting.
I kinda realized then that I tend to listen for what I’m used to listening to and not what was actually said / meant?
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It's just not sitting well with me. She emailed today to explain why she was saying some of the things she said, which helped shed light on how she sees therapy happening, but I am just not okay with it. I have an appointment that I already paid for next Tuesday and I told her I am considering a break--possibly permanent--after that. But I may just as well not go to that and email my intentions instead. It's a long drive and it's likely she would nod and say okay, and then I would leave in silence and kick myself for doing that in person.
Anyway, a break is not a bad idea, I don't think. I just can't stand the re-framing crap. Or mirroring. I told her a while back that it's not helpful to me. For some reason, it morphed into her repeating my words, which feels mocking and empty. I read up on that technique and found that therapists believe it's supposed to create more of a bond, or trust, or something positive for the person. I don't get it. For me, it's very distancing. I hear myself all day long. I don't need to have someone parrot back my thoughts. She used to be more original and interactive. I don't know what happened. Maybe she is giving up.