I bet in a way emailing could be helpful. On the other hand, I am not sure to what extent. If she didn't reply, I'd go crazy, If she did, I would be unsure of whether to write back again or not... and in the end, I'd feel bad for taking up her time beyond sessions (I have severe self-worth issues).
I also wonder if it just intensify my love for her and the pain this transference brings with it. I don't know, though.

Can't you ask her straight up to answer the boundary questions you asked? Because those unanswered questions aren't helping you, and she's you T and should tell you, hey, it's alright. or, hey, here are my boundaries, and you need to accept them. Ignoring the topic isn't a great way of dealing with it. It may mean it's just not that important to her, and in this case, you just need to tell her it is to you.

It's hard being that honest (for me, at least), but every time I am honest with my T and she reacts positively and in a caring way, my heart kind of leaps.

One topic that's really hard is transference. I am worried she ... dunno, thinks I'm nuts (she says she doesn't) or gets worried I might overstep boundaries or stalk her (I don't, but how can she know?) and would not want to worry her, or even lose her.... Therapy is complicated. LOL.

I wrote some kind of essay about my issues, more for myself, but I want to give it to her.... and am not sure if I should. I write so many things I'd love her to read but worry it might be too close and too much...