It can take time to find the right therapist. I worked with a newly minted PhD and that was disastrous. I went to see another one who told me she was afraid to work with me. Now I am with a really skilled therapist. Sounds like you need to find someone who has the substantial experience. I personally, with my background and issues, wouldn't consider working with anyone who had less than 10 years experience. The more complex the issues are that we bring to therapy, the more skilled the therapist needs to be. Keep looking...