Earlier this evening my kids' father called me and was insulting on the phone (we've been separated for 3 months). Showed no respect. He was just pissy. He called about an issue about one of the kids that was something 2 parents would want to discuss. Why did he have to treat me so mean? I let him know I didn't appreciate it and that made him even pissier. Somehow this treatment makes me feel much worse now than when we were still a couple. Then, I just "took it" when he treated me like that. Now I feel I don't deserve it, like, "hey, we're not married anymore, you can't treat me that way!" I feel like now I should get the same civil treatment he might give to a stranger. But he obviously doesn't feel that way.

The whole thing makes me also question why in heck did I let him treat me that way for so many years when we were still together? WTH was wrong with me?

I am feeling confused these days.